They say battered wives get brainwashed that they seem to think that the cycle of abuse is what is norm. They say battered wives almost seem to depend on their abuser, and "look for" the abuse since they feel it is normal and should be tolerated.
I disagree.
Women who stay in abusive relationships are neither weak, dependent or brainwashed. They are courageous, loving and selfless. It is easy to prepare a "flight plan" -- where to go and what are the next steps when they decide to leave their abuser. BUT, when they consider other family members that might get hurt when the abuser runs amuck, they decide to stay. They stay and swallow their pride so that others may be safe. They pray for protection and take all the pain so that a others may be spared.
In the end, no one would rather sleep on the floor by the door, all the while thinking about how she stayed by her abuser's side during the days when he can barely breathe. And while he throws pillows at her, she keeps her position on the floor so that he cannot take their kids away in the middle of the night. Then to be "forgiven" through reconciliation sex a few days after. Months after, they discover she is pregnant again, and she thanks God that nothing bad has happened to the child in her womb during that gruelling night.
TO PART 6.
This blog contains my thoughts and my ramblings, stories of our family, and random stuff I find along the way -- things I want my children to remember long after I am gone. May you learn more about Mommy as you read each post, and know that I love you all very much.
